One of the big problems with people being ‘stuck in a rut’ is the fact that they spend too much of their time either :
* Re-living past mistakes
* Worrying about the future
Because of these two issues they are effectively ‘sleep-walking’ through life. They unconsciously become ‘stuck in a rut’ and are seemingly unable to see any real progress in their lives. They just can’t seem to focus on ‘the right thing’ that’s going to result in real life progression.
How did I get here ?
Have you ever driven a car and when you reached your destination, you had no recollection whatsoever of the actual journey ?
Some people say that’s because driving is (largely) a subconscious effort. In other words, we are able to drive the car ‘automatically’, whilst thinking about something else. Of course, there’s an element of truth in that.
In reality though, lots of people are actually on that same ‘forgetful journey’ they are calling life :
- not knowing where they’re going and
- not remembering the journey to this point !!
What did I just read ?
Have you noticed yourself reading a chapter of a book, or a magazine article, and when you get to the end you have no idea what you’ve just read ?
You have been ‘miles away’ day-dreaming and not taking any of the information in.
Where did the time go ?
Another indicator that you are not living ‘in the present’ is when you find yourself at the end of the day, week, month, or year and saying :
“Wow, where did that day (week, month, or year) go ? Time has gone so quickly and I don’t seem to have gotten anything done.”
We all say it…. But that’s NOT a good place to be.
You’re not here….. NOW
If you can relate to any of the above scenarios then you are day-dreaming your way through life and this will ALWAYS leave you stuck in a rut, unless you can snap out of it.
Even more of a problem is if you can relate to any (or all) of the above, then you are clearly lacking focus and even if you set yourself goals you’re unlikely to be very efficient at achieving them, because your mind is always ‘elsewhere’.
Do you have a to-do list, where most of the stuff doesn’t get done ? And are you putting off those tasks that you know should be done ?
But isn’t everyone like that ?
One of the main traits of successful people is they get a lot done. But how ? They have the same amount of hours in the day as you, BUT it’s what they do with those hours.
Focus and concentration are key elements of successful people. They set a goal and ‘go for it’ with lazer sharp focus. They don’t get distracted and they remain present. They think about what’s happening NOW, not the problems of last week, or the potential issues of next month. Do you see the difference ?
They could probably complete the ‘average persons’ to-do list before lunch-time. It’s just about focus.
Do you think that any of today’s successful people keep going over that ‘internal movie’ of past mistakes, or spend 50 % of their day worrying about future events which may never happen ?
Of course not !!!
So what’s the big deal really ?
Each of us only has so much brain capacity. It doesn’t matter whether we are talking about the conscious mind or the subconscious mind here. Both have a finite amount of capacity.
Now if you are consciously thinking about (or unconsciously holding onto) issues from your past, or continuously churning up fears about the future, then do you think that gives you greater or lesser creative capacity for your brain to work on the good stuff ?
ANSWER : Of course it results in you having A LOT LESS capacity to be creative in achieving your goals.
You will find yourself ‘feeling stuck’ or ‘not knowing what to do’. Ever felt like that ? It’s because your brain is clogged up with issues (past or future) which really aren’t serving you.
It’s why successful people are able to seemingly breeze through life. They have got rid of the ‘baggage’, meaning their brains are ‘free’ to be creative and they never ‘feel stuck’.
But I don’t think about these issues all the time
No, you’d probably go mad with ‘brain activity overload’ if you did. HOWEVER, if you think about these things on a regular basis :
* Once per day
* Once per week
* A couple of times per month
….. then you have these thoughts in your conscious mind (taking you away from your ‘here and now’ focus).
That doesn’t sound like much of a problem though ?
On the face of it, it doesn’t. But the thing is, even when you are not consciously thinking about these ‘issues’ they still have to be stored somewhere in your head.
They’re filed in there somewhere, ready for you to drag them out and go over the same thing again and again (either by talking to yourself, or friends and family). If you are storing these things away, it will be suffocating your creative mind. And the longer we go through life the more ‘clogged up’ we are likely to get.
How many personal growth books / tapes / CDs / articles have you been exposed to over the years ? Have they really helped you achieve what you wanted to achieve ?
“The Secret” has been watched / listened to / read by over 200 million people. So why aren’t there millions more successful people ?
In truth, you might have read, watched, listened to The Secret lots of times, but have you really taken everything in ? Or where you ‘not present’ as you read it and instead thinking about :
- “Is the boss going to be angry with me about xyz ?”
- “When am I ever going to get a partner ?”
- “The Secret is never going to help me because xyz”
Okay, so how do I become ‘present’ ?
One of the most simple and effective things you can try is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or ‘Tapping’). We do have articles elsewhere on this site talking more about this technique, but for now we have a simple 6 minute video………
Brad Yates is one of the leading experts in the EFT field (he has hundreds of videos on YouTube).
Just simply watch what Brad does and tap along, repeating what he says on the video whilst tapping the meridian points.
This is a very effective technique and it does work.
Right Here, Right Now – Being Present – Tapping with Brad Yates
To show you how effective this technique is this article, that you’re reading, was drafted in less than 30 minutes – straight after doing EFT and ‘becoming present’.
Try the technique and see if anything ‘comes up’ as you are doing it. You might start thinking about ‘issues’. If you do, then these are the issues that you need to tap on (but that’s all for another article).
On the other hand, you might find yourself feeling extremely focused on whatever it is you should be focusing on…… WE DID !!!
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